Mar 30, 2019

Start Living For Yourself | Loving Yourself


Some people feel the need to give their two cents wherever and whenever they get the chance to. It wasn’t asked for but it’s given. To them, it might be their way of ‘helping the world’ and if the advice is taken then they feel good about themselves. They feel connected to someone else’s life and a sense of control over it. ‘I’m the reason why this happened’ ‘I’m the reason why she did this’ ‘If it wasn’t for me this wouldn’t have happened’.

But I have a message for these people or anyone who thinks similarly: Bear in mind that just because someone does something doesn’t mean that you made them do it or they took your advice. Most of the time they were already considering taking action or had plans in place. Because we all know that not all plans are revealed before they’re completed.

"Do not let your left hand know what the right hand is doing" - Matthew 6:3
You don’t have control over anyone’s life except your own. Don’t feel the need to take credit for someone’s action just because you gave your opinion of something and it was considered. It’s not about you.

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While growing up I realized that the worse comments come from the people closest to you; your own family, someone you look up to, someone you trust or even someone you never expected it from. The more I think about it the more I understand why. These people know us better than everyone else, they know our strengths, our weaknesses, they know what makes us tick and they use that. They have their weapons and they know just how to use them. That’s why the criticism hurts so much. These people influence your decisions whether you know it or not and some value is placed, by us, on their opinions.

It’s like no matter the situation they ALWAYS have something to say.
‘You should do this...’
‘You should do that...’
Well, maybe they should mind their damn business and stop concerning themselves with you and  your life.

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Why don’t they just take their own advice, since they have so much to give, and change their lifestyle? Apply some of their own knowledge and beliefs to their situation. It could probably do them some good. Or maybe they’ll finally realize that it was unnecessary and clearly didn’t mean any good.

I experienced this throughout most of my natural hair journey. While I had relaxed hair people would say ‘Well maybe you should go natural’ - I went natural. Just after I did my big chop people were saying ‘Why’d you cut your hair?!’, ‘People with your hair texture shouldn’t go natural’. When my hair started growing and my twist-outs were poppin’ they started saying ‘your hair is so nice’ ‘it’s growing so fast’. Then came my second big chop - ‘Why would you cut your hair?!’ ‘Short hair is not going to fit you’. Later on, I decided to grow my hair out - ‘Why?! You look so much better with short hair’.

You see where I’m getting at? At almost every stage they had something to say and most of the statements were negative. If I kept listening to what they said my self-esteem would be nonexistent by now. It felt like I was living with a chain around my neck and people’s opinions were constantly being shoved down my throat and I was choking. I was damn near dying - all because people couldn’t keep their opinions to themselves.

That’s why I cut my hair - I was cutting the chain from my neck. In its simplest form, I cut my hair because it was breaking; I had split ends and no matter what I tried they wouldn’t go away. But in actuality, I thought about cutting my hair for months. It was always something in the back of my mind and I was sure of it. I wanted a way to bury the control they had over me. I did it once before but I wasn’t strong enough and they reeled me back in. This time it was to show that I was done listening to them and they could keep wasting their breath.


If we continue to listen to and accept this negativity it will mess with your mental health. Even if you think you’re strong and you love yourself self there will be a little thing called doubt in the back of your mind and you’ll unconsciously second guess any and everything you think of. And that’s how they win.

As much as possible try to focus on yourself, your life. Get selfish - do things that feed your happiness, care about your mental health. Because other people’s negativity is stressful and you don’t need that negativity in your life.

People are going to talk regardless - good/bad, happy/sad - because believe it or not people want things to distract them from their own issues. But you don’t have to listen. Block it out, turn off your ears if you have to. It’s your life and you have to live for you.

"Everyone has advice to give but not every piece of advice should be taken." - Chevy

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Mar 18, 2019

Pokémon Go: 2 Week Report

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“ I played Pok√©mon Go for a week and I think I’m obsessed!” 

I remember a couple years ago when this game was released and everyone was obsessed with it. It was all people talked about but unfortunately it wasn’t available in Jamaica yet so that’s all we could do - talk. As a person who grew up watching Pok√©mon I was a bit excited about the game but I didn’t want it to seem like I was merely jumping on the bandwagon or following the hype. So I avoided any conversation about it and found other things to occupy my time. That same year I spent three months with my aunt in Orlando and one day I just had a random thought “I can finally play the game because a) it was available in the region and b) no one was here to judge me. 


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I downloaded the game fully prepared to catch some Pok√©mon and just simply be an amazing player but I ran into a problem - the Pok√©mon were too far away from where we lived. If I wanted to catch any I would have to go out of my way to find the place and my aunt was not about to drive me around for a “stupid game”. After I noticed this problem others started popping up: 

  • Anytime Pok√©mon were near to my house my phone would literally sound an alarm. Even at 3 in the morning. 

  • I could only play the game whenever I had WiFi because I didn’t live in Florida and my phone had no service. 

  • Most importantly, this game was draining my battery. I mean I had to leave the game open in the background to get notifications but it was sucking the life out of my phone.

So I ended up just deleting it and carrying on with my life. 

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Some time later it was finally available in Jamaica but by that point the wave died down (because we get everything late here) so everyone was on to the next trending thing. 

A couple weeks ago I was on Twitter when Nele made a post about Smeargle In Po√©mon Go and I suddenly felt the urge to play the game again - to finally see what all the hype was about. And I loved it. I ended up walking around my university campus, staring at my phone like a zombie trying to catch Pok√©mon. My friends even followed me to different Pok√©Stops because I didn’t want to be awkwardly standing beside a statue on campus. 

Anyways, after two full weeks of obsession here are some of my achievements: 

Pok√©mon Go Milestones 

  • Made it to level 15 (and a half)

  • Caught 117 Pok√©mon. Whenever I got a duplicate I’d keep the more powerful one and transfer the other to the professor. 

  • Got photobombed by Smeargle. At first I was taking pictures of my Pok√©mon to show my little sister how the AD camera worked but then I read ... post and kept trying until Smeargle popped up. I didn’t even notice the day he did - my mom was the one that pointed him out. 
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Smeargle Photobomb

  • Joined a team. I joined Team Valor because Candela seemed cool. 

  • Battled Arcainine at a gym. He had a CP of 2007 and my Pok√©mon had 185 (Nosepass was the strongest one I had). To be honest I don’t even know how I got into the battle but I most definitely lost. 

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Battle:Arcanine vs Nosepass

  • Hatched 8 eggs and I now have 5 other eggs in incubators. 

  • Walked 17.2 km since I started playing. 

  • Made 25 friends. I literally posted my trainer code on Twitter and a bunch of people started adding me. But my very first friend was actually a girl from my school who saw me playing and asked if I wanted to be friends. 

  • Had a Pok√©mon evolve. I hatched a Dratini and she evolved into Dragonair. 

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 Dratini to Dragonair

  • Won 13 medals from doing different tasks. 

Overall I had fun playing the game - actually got excited whenever a Pok√©mon popped up - and a part from it draining my battery and occupying all my free time, I finally had something to focus all my extra energy on. 

I’m still debating on whether or not I should keep the app but if any of you can send me some tips on how to actually play then I’ll probably keep it. 

Have you played Pok√©mon Go or watched the show before? 
What’s your favorite Pok√©mon? 

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Mar 4, 2019

28 Unfinished Blog Post Ideas

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“I write because I feel inspired to.” - Chevy

My inspiration can be compared to a weasel - it just pops up every now and then. I could be on my way to school, in the shower or even sleeping and I’d get an idea for a blog post which I have to write down before I forget it. 

Because of this I have about 50 unfinished blog post titles and ideas in my notes with no motivation to finish them. It’s a bad habit I have of starting things and getting bored of them later on. If I’m just not feeling it then the post lives out the rest of its days in a deep, dark abyss - my archive. 



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Ever since I started my blog I’ve been constantly experiencing writer’s block and I’m completely serious when I say my mind is BLOCKEDT. One minute I’m powering through posts to the point where I have a month’s worth. But the next minute I can’t even think of an opening sentence. 

Well, for this post I need your help. I’m going to list some of my unfinished titles and ideas and I want you to leave a comment with any you’d be interested in reading. Then based on your answers I’ll conjure up all my awesomeness and write an epic post just for you. 


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28 (unfinished) Blog Post Ideas


Most of these I’ve already started writing them but I gave up halfway through so if they’re chosen you can expect a post in about two weeks. 

  • What if questions: The Apocalypse / A series of what if questions 

  • My road trip to St. Elizabeth 

  • 30 Day Oil Challenge

  • Urban Ramen Review

  • A Letter To Myself 

  • 5 Weird But Obsessive Games I’m Playing

  • 8 Must-have Natural Hair Products 


  • Self Love vs Selfishness 

  • 9 things that make me happy 

  • Important Events of 2018


  • 5 Truths and 5 Lies

  • 6 Cute Yet Affordable Swimsuits 

  • One Week, One Picture Series

  • Cantu Product Review

  • LottaBody Product Review 

  • The Perfect Date

  • Late Periods Answered

  • Let’s Talk: Sanitary Napkins/Pads

  • Self Love: Finding the Missing Piece

  • 5 Reasons You Should Start A Blog

  • On The Road To Burnout: Are You There Yet?

  • My Natural Hair Journey 

  • Let’s Talk: Acceptance 

  • I Am Jamaican 

  • The Mystery Behind New Years Resolutions 

  • 3 Things You Should Know About Attraction 



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